3/11/2016

Saving Girls from a Life of Shame

Stop selling our daughters and girls to Sex Trade, violence and sexual slavery. One brave woman Anuradha Koirala was recognized by CNN Heros in 2010 for her work in rescuing over 12,000 women and girls in Nepal. Recently I had the pleasure of meeting courageous Urmi Basu, Founder of New Light Foundation (which provides safe refuge and education for the vulnerable children in the red light district of Kalighat, Kolkata) at Tri-State Durga Puja 2015, Lexington, KY.


Getting Enlightened about Prostitution by Dr. Susan Smalley of UCLA is worth reading. The Nordic Model pioneered by Sweden to protect women from human sex trafficking is gaining acceptance by other countries like Canada and Northern Ireland.

A research of 700 men over six countries were asked why men buy sex and the results do not confirm stereotypes. Most men did not feel good and actually carried some guilt and shame about buying sex but still kept doing it. Trace of Misogyny and insecurity/anxiety around sex due to lack of relationship skill with opposite gender may be some unconscious factors under play here. Lack of Social-awareness around the issue of human trafficking and forced prostitution of girls is what keeps the problem in place. See Everyday Sexism Project!

Some of the glorified philosophers like Aristotle portrayed women as morally, intellectually, and physically inferior to men; saw women as the property of men; claimed that women's role in society was to reproduce and serve men in the household; and saw male domination of women as natural and virtuous. [Patriarchy, Wikipedia].  Some blame Buddhism (or distorted teachings of Buddha) being responsible for high level of Prostitution in Thailand. [Q &A on Buddhism]

University of Calgary psychologist Kibeom Lee and colleagues (2013) examined the correlations among the  Dark Triad qualities (Machiavelian, psychopathic/sociopathic, and narcissistic traits) and the “outcomes” (though correlational) in the tendencies toward exploitative sexual liaisons (“Sex”), to dominate and exploit others (“Power”), and to be motivated toward materialistic ends and conspicuous consumption (“Money”). The opposite traits of the Dark Triad are Humility and Honesty. I will add Empathy as the third and most critical human trait lacking in the highly ego-driven dark triad.

Imagine What IF every high-school and college level education had a course on Social-Gender awareness and also created healthy opportunities for one to one social meetup between boys and girls or same gender based on mutual interest?